“A Cinderella Story” part of the relatshuntips series

The story of Cinderella, the wicked stepmom and her daughter’s ( stepsisters) was a regular part of children stories in years gone by.

I’ve heard many of the fairy tales as a boy and occasionally created my own narrative or life after ” Happily ever after”

I’m not saying in any way that Cinderella deserved the poor treatment (as the story goes)but when we look to the end of this tale,we have a reason or understanding that sometimes things may turnout much better than they began.

Or at least that’s what we are led to believe.

But somewhere we all betrayed our childhood dream and lessons and embrace the adult version.

Fear, Anxiety and Retaliation…



And that is how me deal with and resolve all of life.

Scenarios that offer more questions than answers when we are forced to face difficult Seasons.

Our relationtip for this chapter is related to the idea of

Who we are.

What do we need (not want)

How is “Happily Ever After” even possible.

We must face the consequences we make.

What does that mean?

Both Men and Women alike have a persona that they present on the phone, at work or out in public alone and even while when out with friends.

To say that Cinderella was a fraud would be mean,but it wouldn’t be a stretch.

Without the obvious upgrade from her fairy godmother “who is she?”

Our own story may begin the same as all stories ” Once Upon A Time”

And even though our story isn’t a fairytale. There are many,many mythical and imagine personality traits (stories we tell) that in the weeks that follow if we are tested we’d fail miserably.

Though the idea isn’t to lie or come off as someone we’re not, we want to put ourselves in the best light.

Is that bad?

It is when we set a standard for our date (suitor) and have a lower standard for ourselves.

There is always a risk when we meet someone new,

But, there is a greater risk when we are unable to be who we “Post to be” get it?

Get it?…”Post To Be”

Social Media “Post”


So be yourself, there will be nothing to rehearse or remember.


What do you need? (want?)

This is an important one because we are very needy when it comes to the things we want.

The first thing that I’d like to say is that we must journal,this should be something that we do regularly.

But if we do not choose to journal regularly,at least try to do it when our lives take a shift or is disrupted.


Why, you ask?

Because things aren’t happening to us they are happening for us.

There a is process to everything that is alive, living and longing to live.

What are needs?

Needs are easy to identify.




And because we have these as our basic (Important) stuff,chances are we will be able to participate in this journey called life.


Wants will occasionally disguise itself as needs.

Cellular Phone


Girlfriend or Boyfriend

We have created an idea of a life based on having thing and end up with the things having us.

So how do we used this fairytale to understand our own need to enjoy the life we have.

We all like the of everything coming together but, we want to do it without “Everything”…

We want to pick

We don’t want the pain and rejection.

We desire our “Happily Ever After” without the “Once Upon A Time”

And you know something, We are all guilty of sneaking and attempting to take a peek at life before it’s time.

But there are certain endings that will not allow us to peek at or cheat, we must go through blindly and without complaining because we’ve prepare ourselves for this moment.

We don’t want to be content with the idea of suffering.

We don’t want to be content with the idea that progress is spelled P.R.O.C.E.S.S.

And we will embrace the fact that “After Winter Comes Spring”

This rule never changes.

So we must welcome and respect the process because, even though we have all of the ingredients for delicious cake in the baking pan. It is one final stage that has to completed before we can enjoy it.

Cinderella, is like many of us that insist that we deserve better and it isn’t fair.

We wonder when it will be our turn or how much longer we have to wait. The answer is until we learn that there is no time.

Only Seasons

We cannot watch it, waste it or rush it.

And our season will arrive without our permission or awareness and it will continue to teach us.

” We are the creator,writer and Producer of our journey and all that we experience are the agents ( servants) of our expect outcome.

Will we

Can we

Must we

Are We Will, We Can And We Must become free of all pain.

By Directing,Expecting and Excepting our role as creator.

No longer Victims or Complaining…

Relatshuntips vol.1 Arnoldmrdadtate