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“Sorry for your Loss”

Dear city of Cleveland, state of Ohio we…( everyone that is not Cleveland) realize that this is a difficult “Season” ( pardon the pun) for you guys.

But isn’t the first time that you are dealing with this pain and what make it more painful is, it has happened before.

The first time was considered a betrayal.

Citizens began burning his ( LeBron’s) jerseys and even the sitting Mayor denounce him.

I made the statement that this single trade desimate their little town would seriously suffer and become Detroit MI overnight upon LeBron’s exit.

Fast forward to the return all is forgiven or was it, that is until recent developments.

We thought we had it in the bag. (The 🏆) like I said we thought.

Golden State is fricken amazing and as disappointed as we were, we had no reason to believe that we’d lose you… Uh, I mean him.

Soooo, it looks like you are going to be a “Fakers” sorry “Lakers”

We aren’t willing to say it yet but you are going to be a tremendous asset to this team and it is Hollywood and they are already screaming the ” Return Of Showtime”

I’m going to cry…

He will do fine and the whole N.B.A is going to crown them the team of the century.

But for now let’s just celebrate the latest sports ratings coup.

Yes pre-season, preseason during and postseason this will be the (ONLY) news.

And as for the city of Cleveland, they will as before be just fine.

-SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS-

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“Not All Father’s Are Created Equal”

On this Father’s and throughout the year I speak to Father’s that in an effort to create some kind of bond ask questions like do you believe that Father’s get a bad deal?

When I ask, what do you mean?

The response is always a “Mother’s” or Mother’s Day comparison.

My position is always that I don’t compare Mother’s with Father’s, and in fact I don’t want to imagine what a Mother has done or will do for her children.

Face it Mother’s ( Not women with children)

But Mom,and Grandma’s Rock!

I usually end our conversation with “Not All Father’s Are Created Equally”

So I’d like to share in this blog some of my thoughts on Fatherhood.

And when you have an opportunity take the time to read my blog ” The Ten Commandments Of Parenting By Arnoldmrdadtate”

Father are different from Mother’s is something that a child can teach much better than I can.

This is the problem when it comes to a grown man attempting to wonder why Mother’s Day is different from Father’s Day.

The number one problem that I see with us Father’s is that we have this imaginary idea of roles and responsibilities.

Big Mistake.

We must do what we must do.

I have a 20/80 rule for Dad’s

20% of what you say and 80% of what you do.

So Father’s have to help with homework.

We must do bedtime duty.

We must hold and comfort our children when they are confused or sad.

We must visit our children’s school as well as drop-off and pick-up from school.

The summer visiting and weekend time should not be at the movies or at Dad’s Mom’s house.

When the children out of state it is imperative that we make every moment matter and television and the movie theaters will become their teachers and mentors.

Don’t let them.

Finally

This is an important one.

No matter how busy we get, we must pause any and every time our child speaks to us or seemingly interupt us.

When my children would see me reading they might say, hey Dad?

Oh I see you’re reading.

I’d would say, “It’s ok , you are more important than this book”

No, that is not always the way I felt, but it created the idea that my children mattered and were important.

Also there is a point that is like to make.

Your children should see you reading (often) and it should be a book.

(Put down the phone)

Remember 20/80

Final Thoughts

First time Father’s as well as Grandparents (Father’s) will observe what they believe is independence.

It is not.

What it is, is an example of our child grasping or understanding the things that we taught or are teaching them.

They want to feel confident. But, do not make the mistake of thinking they are good or got it.

They are getting good and getting it.

We make a fuss over any and everything that they do.

Burp

Sneeze

Pass gas

Yarn

Fill their diaper

Everything is worthy extra attention.

When our children are babies up to the time they toddlers we are a 24/7 cheer squad and when we sense they are getting more confident we pull back.

Don’t do it…

Oh, and one more thing

Words are seeds

So, be mindful of your power Dad’s and put less focus on what others think Father’s Day should be.

Remember

“Not All Father’s Are Created Equal”

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“Mind Changing Can Be Mind Blowing”

As I have learned and accepted my place in the world and some of the things that may occur as part of it or as a result of it, there is one thing that I’ve realized in time. “S#&t happens”

I have a saying: Be careful what you say ( Ask For)

not only will you get it, you will not recognize it because it the process (Adversity) it won’t in anyway resemble your request.-Arnoldmrdadtate-

Huh?

What I am saying is that anything we say or believe has the ability to take place in our lives.

And there’s a lot.

And the time.

The process isn’t fun,kind or pretty.

We don’t “Recognize” or “Realize” because the process (Preparation ) is sometimes painful or uncomfortable.

There may be people very close to us that leave us or behave differently.

There may be any number of things that will take place that will look like at our first glance it is out to get us or defeat us

but, taking a closer look or should I say having a clearer account of the things that we say or allow to become our thoughts “things appear clearer”

Or do they ?

One example:

Idle talk is one thing that we tend to do when we are hanging with friends or family and may appear to be innocent but, we sometimes will say things like “I want more” or I deserve better “ there may become a unending amount of created or invited energy that we bring into our own lives these seemingly meaningless words.

Sometimes we brag or boast about who we are or make remarks about someone else’s path to greatness.

No matter what we do, if we do not get control of our thoughts, because our thoughts produce and encourage the words.

We feel that we need to and are told we need to watch what we say.

shhh…don’t say this or that?

If we do not control our words we will have a life filled with unexpected, unexplained and unimaginable situations.

And that’s putting it lightly.

As I write this blog our world is changing and the tax on the words say is at a all time high.

Whether on social media or in person, in the letters we write, our words will play over and over again. Oh and by the way the idea of trying to defend yourself is now considered “Shameful “

It also is considered an excuse or a lie and will only make you look worse.

“Guilty Until The Internet Absolves (Exonerates) You”

For most, this will be “Never” because as you will see in my blog “Revenge Of The Nerds” there are a bunch of people with there own set of problems that are not going to take their foot off of your neck no matter what.

So how do we get control of our words?

You may ask.

And what happens when I get angry? (I Can Still Get Angry Can’t I?)

I’m a consultant I am no expert and for the record there are no experts. Because we are always learning “What We Don’t Know”…

For me I’ve managed to embrace the idea of practicing making or creating perfection .

What?

Huh?

My way of gaining control.

I workout.

All day.

Everyday.

I call it a #wordkout .

These are a group of words that are reminders and guides to fine tune my response system.

60 second wordkout :

Smile,Smile,Smile… I say it over and over again. Smiles have “Supernatural Powers)

Pause: Pause is not stop and Stop is not pause. Everyday and in every situation pause. The pause will guarantee the best response .” Pausation” smile and then speak or respond. Say pause over and over again

Be kind. This is not possible to do without practice and is also very difficult to do because kindness is considered weakness some say. So I say these words over and over to remind myself of its importance.

Smile-Pause-Be Kind

3 exercises and I must say that when I first started doing these exercises it was tough and any day that I would miss I’d see the difference.

These ( what I refer to as exercises) may seem silly but give them a try.

The mind is an interesting and altogether different area to train.

Because it has so many levels of what it is, how it works and where it get its information.

Training the brain is not what I am doing for myself nor is it what I would encourage of others.

What I will say is that I realize certain things

Patterns

Behaviors

Addictions

And weaknesses that give me the idea that I’m stuck.

I know that I want more and I need more however I remain in a cycle of “Blah”

Blah is a feeling that I have no power to change the situation, or

who,what or all that I am where will I end up?

What I find myself doing to change this “Blah”

Is .

I eat something different ( Something I haven’t had in a while) or hadn’t ever eaten.

Take a trip ( It May be local) but it will disrupt my pattern and challenge the “Blah”

Play or listen to a different genre of music than I generally listen to.

There are any number of things that we can do to disrupt and reboot our minds.

Changing our minds should actually be a thing and it should also become a daily,weekly or monthly thing.

If at any time you have the time check out my YouTube channel “In my car with my cigar” Tell-A-Vision .This is an area where our minds are powerless to determine what is real from what is not.

Television, Radio, Social Media create produce mind pollutants.

But for now I will leave you with these words.

What if I told you that your life really is a journey and that everyone of your responses (Reactions) produces a “Go” or “No” algorithms and this is why it is taking so long for you to find yourself #eduTate

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“The Sensitive Naked Man (Woman)”

The Saturday Night Live skit “The Sensitive Naked Man” is for me, one of the most ingenious and memorable skits ever.

Rob Schneider was hilarious .

I became a fan instantly and think about his ability to keep a straight face but also to sell the idea that nothing was wrong.

I no longer have a Hulu account and that is where I would be able to find the reruns so I’ll probably have to head to Walmart to find the season that has these particular episodes and be satisfied.

Saturday Night Live for me had a difficult time maintaining steady laughs (For Me) and so when I would see the Rob Schneider preview I was certain that I would be in for a laugh.

I certainly was attempting to do a promotion’ to Saturday Night Live or even a Rob Schneider tribute.

What I was attempting to do was address a common occurrence in people all around the world.

A world that says “Do You” without a clear idea of what “ You Is” or should I say you are?

The idea that Correction, Etiquette, and Class do not matter or are irrelevant.

Or even the suggestion (Audacity) to a friend or family member that they shouldn’t eat,wear or do something because of the consequence.

A world where we’ve become so inclusive that we bar the idea of screening or monitoring our intake.

Not just talking about food.

I’m talking about information.

Criticism or Complement.

No, Not yet or Never

And all the lies that we tell ourselves based on the inclusivist ideology of

You’re Fine.

Don’t Change.

They Hatin’

Do You.

Only God Can Judge Me.

Inclusivist want a world where anything goes and there aren’t and cannot be any restrictions or rules.

There is another word for that.

Lawlessness.

Or

Anarchy.

The rules are ever changing.

And it is a matter of time before we self destruct.

The idea that it is someone else’s fault is not new.

In the old days we referred to it as “Blaming”

Imagine “The Sensitive Naked Man” walking around day after day and even though it is clear to everyone else that he has no clothes on and that “ “THIS IS A PROBLEM”

He sees the look of outrage, disdain and “What that?” On our faces and wants to know what the actual problem (It Can’t Be Him)

He doesn’t see it as a problem.

He insists that it is something else that is wrong with us.

Something deeper.

Even sinister.

There is another inclusivist tool that exists called social media.

Where people that actually have higher intelligent (Not Just Degrees) but people that “Think Before They Speak” type,comment or post.

And these people are placed in a pool where anyone is able to swim.

Or should we say “WEB”

This pool is filled with everyone else has a thought ( maybe we shouldn’t say thought)

IDEA… that’s it, idea.

Social Media provides

Equal ground.

Even Playing Field.

Same airspace and airtime.

And depending on how many people we get to

Agree with

Comment

Like

Share

We could become “ Somebody”

The internet has become a place where those that do not know meet those that half know and those that know and create a world that doesn’t want to know anything.

Something we want to support our friends and family in their quest to maintain a full life and all they hear is us calling them “FAT”

Criticizing them.

Or judging them.

As we take a look at a man that is clearly naked and is oblivious to that this is offensive and in poor taste.

Final thoughts:

We must consider the fact that if there are no rules or code of conduct, we will continue to have a communication gap.

And as we all enjoy the #excapation and #netventures that the internet provides we must draw a line in the sand to what we allow in our brain space. -Arnoldmrdadtate-

Also check out my blog “ Cell-phone” …